John's Gospel offers
us another profoundly human story this Sunday. Where was Jesus when Lazarus
suddenly died? Where is comfort when tragedy strikes, when a big hole is
left in a small loving family? How to deal with a tragedy like Alzheimer's, or when
a spouse walks away, or when terminal cancer strikes a young mother, or when a
son or daughter takes their own life? At such times, the armor of self-reliance
and self-sufficiency seems to crumble and fall away.
Distress, separation,
loss, grief, loneliness, disappointment...and eventually new life and freedom,
are some of the very human elements on display in this Sunday's story of Jesus
and the raising of Lazarus from the dead. They are familiar to all of us. We
identify easily with this Gospel. Read it this week in John 11.
The family of Martha,
Mary and Lazarus was close-knit, and Jesus was part and parcel of it.
The sisters waited almost a week before Jesus showed up. Their
heartbreak was heightened by the fact that they had sent him a message to
come quickly, even while Lazarus was still alive. Jesus disappointed them
royally. He knew their tragedy and their heartbreak. There are many
ways to break a heart, and one of them is not being there when
someone you know is in deep crisis.
"Lord, if you had
been here my brother would not have died," sounds almost like an angry
accusation. And when Lazarus died, they were left without their main man to
lean on. It's not easy to walk into a tragic situation, knowing you're the
one person they expect to hold it all together. Jesus didn't become defensive
and offer an excuse. In times of huge personal loss, people ache for someone to
lean on, someone to hold them and comfort them.
In the aftermath of a
loved one's death, the music within us stops. "One day I shall dig my
fingers into the earth, or bury my face in the pillow, or stretch myself
taut, or raise my hands to the sky, and want more than all the world, your
return," wrote Irish poet, Mary Jean Irions, as she captured how much she
wanted her loved one back again. Deep down, we know it's never the right time
for her or him to go.
We, like Martha and
Mary - and the poet - throw our hands up to the sky in times of loss and sorest
grief. All our longings and yearnings and restlessness - all our big life questions
- are ultimately God-directed. I've seen too many tragedies in people's
lives not to know that loss and disappointment are part of something larger
that eventually cracks open and offers new life and hope.
Death leads to
more....
PASTOR EMERITUS